(all Genders, but let these shoes take place in a womans shoe, but like I said, Im speaking for all genders)
You are in a certain sistuation where you have this rare gentlemen in your presence, and you both are starting to notice both of your interests are similar and you start dating and spending time with one another more and more and this person becomes your boyfriend. Yes, its offical, he is yours and all yours, but without a ring on his and your fingers. Now im sure you have tried many times over and over about taking it to the next level. Every time you bring up the word marriage or maybe the word commitment itself, it sends him blank and lost, like he didnt hear what you said are probably didnt want to hear it. Why are men so afraid of commitment?
I would probably guess that maybe you both see the relationship very differently. Maybe he doesnt see you in his future as his wife. Maybe your really not the one he wanted forever. Not really good that he feels that way but its the truth many times, and manly the reason why many realtionships and marriages dont last as long as they should. Maybe he doesnt want to commit because he loves that little bit of freedom he has. Men love their privacy, and feeling as if he is the king that can do what ever he please, when ever he please, and at his own time. Men could still do that, just make sue you and your wife now have an understanding of "your time". Maybe have a certain day a week where you hardly talk to eachother that day, and do what ever you want, when you want, and the both of you dont have a problem with that. But of course, no cheating on your wife! Thats a no no!
Another reason why certain men wont commit, and I say certain men, is because many times the wrong guy that you really dont want to commit to you, end up wanting to take the relationship to a level you didnt want to get to. So for the certain men that wont commit, maybe they have gave their all to their last lovers, that they have been through so many problems and hurt, that maybe he feels where the relationship is at that moment, at its peak, is maybe best for him right now. He is to afraid of being hurt again and giving his all. So he is enjoying the relationship where it stands. IF he is a good man, and I mean good. You stay with that man until he is ready. And the wait is worth it. TRUST.
Well what do you do now? Whats the next stage in your relationship? Well you cant force someone to like you more, are even pressure them to marry you, then it would be a turn off and now the guy of your dreams crashed and vanished. Try to change his view on commitment, make him understand that, maybe you too have had a broke heart, and not even is perfect, but maybe he was put in that relationship for the betterment(a word?) of his other future relationships. Know what he is thinking, learn his way, and try to make him settle down with you, and make him trust you. Never stop being you! Be yourself, be the person that he first met. Maybe thinking soo much about it is killing the mood, stop thinking about marriage and commitment, because it has to come natural, and indeed it will. Stop being you, and once he realize what he has infront of him is a diamond, he will be willing and begging for a commitment. :)
TPH
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