You CANT....convince a man to love you

I will be soon talking about how many women and gay men cant convince any man to love them. This is just an intro onto the next topic and blog, I will be making a video too. Stay Tune! :)

Relationship Advice: Are You Dating a Man Afraid of Commitment?

(all Genders, but let these shoes take place in a womans shoe, but like I said, Im speaking for all genders)

You are in a certain sistuation where you have this rare gentlemen in your presence, and you both are starting to notice both of your interests are similar and you start dating and spending time with one another more and more and this person becomes your boyfriend. Yes, its offical, he is yours and all yours, but without a ring on his and your fingers. Now im sure you have tried many times over and over about taking it to the next level. Every time you bring up the word marriage or maybe the word commitment itself, it sends him blank and lost, like he didnt hear what you said are probably didnt want to hear it. Why are men so afraid of commitment?

I would probably guess that maybe you both see the relationship very differently. Maybe he doesnt see you in his future as his wife. Maybe your really not the one he wanted forever. Not really good that he feels that way but its the truth many times, and manly the reason why many realtionships and marriages dont last as long as they should. Maybe he doesnt want to commit because he loves that little bit of freedom he has. Men love their privacy, and feeling as if he is the king that can do what ever he please, when ever he please, and at his own time. Men could still do that, just make sue you and your wife now have an understanding of "your time". Maybe have a certain day a week where you hardly talk to eachother that day, and do what ever you want, when you want, and the both of you dont have a problem with that. But of course, no cheating on your wife! Thats a no no!

Another reason why certain men wont commit, and I say certain men, is because many times the wrong guy that you really dont want to commit to you, end up wanting to take the relationship to a level you didnt want to get to. So for the certain men that wont commit, maybe they have gave their all to their last lovers, that they have been through so many problems and hurt, that maybe he feels where the relationship is at that moment, at its peak, is maybe best for him right now. He is to afraid of being hurt again and giving his all. So he is enjoying the relationship where it stands. IF he is a good man, and I mean good. You stay with that man until he is ready. And the wait is worth it. TRUST.

Well what do you do now? Whats the next stage in your relationship? Well you cant force someone to like you more, are even pressure them to marry you, then it would be a turn off and now the guy of your dreams crashed and vanished. Try to change his view on commitment, make him understand that, maybe you too have had a broke heart, and not even is perfect, but maybe he was put in that relationship for the betterment(a word?) of his other future relationships. Know what he is thinking, learn his way, and try to make him settle down with you, and make him trust you. Never stop being you! Be yourself, be the person that he first met. Maybe thinking soo much about it is killing the mood, stop thinking about marriage and commitment, because it has to come natural, and indeed it will. Stop being you, and once he realize what he has infront of him is a diamond, he will be willing and begging for a commitment. :)

TPH

Crazy In Love Black Book: What is LOVE?

Welcome to another inside announcement from my "Crazy In LOVE Black Book" Well today we will both learn what love means from other people other then ourselves. I stated before what I thought about the word LOVE and as many of us know, it can be very painful with just a simple kiss.

Im sure many of you might know of the site Wiki Answers. Well for those of you who have never heard of Wiki; is a site where you can answer questions someone else has asked, are post your own question for feedback from others. Well I type in the question im 100% sure someone has asked before. That question was, what is love? (<-- Click here to review the answers) Okay after reviewing many answers, I came about some answers that, makes me what to talk more about.

The first answer, that I feel could probably go in my little "Crazy In LOVE Black Book" (what I call my in-my-head-love-book) under chapter WHAT THE HELL? Would be this, and I quote. "Love is when you care about someone else more than you care about yourself. It means you would rather make them happy than make yourself happy." HUMMM I gave that one alot of thought and I must say, this person must be a damn fool. Im sorry but I really dont get to personal but this person cant be serious? For one, I feel that before you even start to LOVE someone else you must first LOVE your self, and if you dont LOVE yourself first, then the relationship is not going to last over a month. Before anyone start a relationship they must love themselves first then express your love for yourself onto another, and share that love together, which would create a never ending love between the two. Now loving someone else more than yourself does sound alittle crazy, but in many relationships today people are loving someone more than themselves that, they forget about why they are even alive and living, that they are living for someone else and not even enjoying their life! People must stop and look in the mirror and realize what is going on in their relationship and how to get it back to 50/50 love.

The second answer that I found got me thinking pretty hard because for one, I never viewed love in the way they did, and still confused about it. The Answer states, and I quote, " ok listen up love is life no matter what any one says cuz in my research it has shown that more people die earlier when they dont have someone to share it with even if its family or your best friend someone you cant survive without love so to speak if its dumb love young love sexual love or even puppy love its still love and thats all we have in this world is LOVE". Okay, Its many things I agree with and some im confused about. I'am starting to think LOVE is LIFE. Without life, how could be even love, so of course love is life, but many people who are living are put into certain sistuations where its hard to love, and probably dont even know what true love means, more of what they was taught about love. This person said that "from their personal research, more people die earlier when they dont have someone to share it with. " Well you named all things living, but I find that confusing because its more then just people to love. Some people love writing, some people love Art, swimming, music, etc. It's no reason for more people to die earlier if they dont have someone to share their interest with because its many other things to love then people. Trust, if that is true, many people should start to love a hobby. Start somthing you love doing and be happy doing it!

Enough was said so far about what is love, that I hope you realize that love is one of many words without a definition. - TPH

We Made It

A Poem that touched me in so many ways, I would love for you to watch and listen for yourself, and see how wonderful this poet is. We Made It by Sunnie Patterson.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXt4gh1cweQ

Sunday Fashion Style of The Day

Every Sunday I will be picking and searching for the right style I feel that a woman/man should try atleast once are many times in his/her life. So today I have found some vintage styles that looks very fabulous at every angle.

This legendary Gray geometric diamond patter with lime trim at bottom hem, gathered in front and back at bust line would be perfect for a day of shopping, hanging with friends and family for a lunch, are even a nice casual date attire. This Geometric Dress can be found at a reasonable price for only $26.99 at dechoes.com

The perfect shoe for this vintage dress would be the Jessica Simpson Nichola, a black 4"Peep-toe, Oxford-style pump that is 100% leather and only for $89.00 at piperlime.com. And also one of Rachel Zoe favorite picks. This shoe will make the dress even more glam and chic with a price of attitude.

Now down to the jewelry. A simple shape would do the dress alot of justice. The theme is shapes... are far as the shape in the pattern of the dress and the nice shape pumps.... now the jewelry has to make a splash.... somthing that has to get you notice... well of course keep on the same road of vintage wear... this nice Coro Confetti Lucite Peter Pan Necklace Set is great for this outfit. The upside-down triangles give the necklace that wild Peter Pan look. Small pieces of golden foil are embedded in clear Lucite inserts with a pale buttercup yellow base. The fitting is smooth gold tone. Matching clip on earrings add their razzle dazzle to attract attention to your smile and to bring a spark to your eyes. Only $58 at vintagecostumejewels.com

Now with the perfect clutch, this nice light mulberry Nine West Precisely Gathered Clutch would be a perfect eye catching moment. This clutch along will bring that dullness out of the dress and turn the whole attire into a runway style that im sure Us weekly would vote number one for their best day outfit style of the month! This Nine West clutch can be found at piperlime.com for only $69.

Now that you have done your shopping, lets see how much all this will cost you, which could help you get a new date, even a job, who knows who you may come across from wearing this lovely attire. Grand total of... $242.99. I would say for all that you have just bought, and it added up to only $242, thats not bad for some of this nice vintage, and still designer items. Well I hope you love my Sunday pick. Enjoy!

Relationship Advice: Easy to LOVE, Hard to let LOVE go

Love; Somthing that can be painful but yet everlasting happiness.( According to Todd's Definition) So why is it so easy to fall in love and hard to let love go.

First, Its only hard when you truely had deep love feelings for this person. When you start loving someone deep like that, of course its going to be hard, but why does it take along time to forget. The reason is because your scared none would ever love you the same way he/she did. You have to learn to know that, yes this person might have been the guy/girl of your dreams but every story isnt a happy ending. When you let a chapter go another chapter would open, and you will find someone that loves you probably even more than the last, but you have to make sure you can love again. If you cant get over the fact that your pass lover doesnt love you anymore, then your in trouble and in deep denial that your dream relationship that you told to all your friends and family that you finaly found the one that its really over. You have to get over it and move on! Your wasteiing time crying over love that is gone. Of course he/she is probably not crying over you, so why should you? Now move right after it happens. The longer you wait, the worst it will get.

Its soo easy to fall in love because you want to feel what love is and all the things it can do to you. You love the feeling of feeling loved and love someone else. Its a powerful feeling that Im sure everyone wants and would probably do anything to get it.... like putting in more work just so the person can notice you so they can love you. You do things to make them love you which I feel is stupid. Love should come natural between both people, and if it just doesnt come natural its not going to last as long as you want it to last. So try not to love so easy, and when you do that, when the love is over it wont be so hard to forgive.

- TPH

Crazy In Love Black Book

Hello,

Well I would first like to start off by saying I have never been in a serious relationship with anyone. I know many of my friends and people I dont know is reading this but maybe my advice could help you with your relationship. People say the perfect advice is from someone who "been there done that"...well I say the perfect advice is from the person that listen to it all and was a eye-full ear-open stand by person. Which I would call myself that. Many of my friends tell me all their deepest secrets and love problems and how much they love their mate, and all I do is soak it in. Its nice to get head-ups from other people about their problems and problem-solving secrets to staying happy in love... are maybe unhappy in love. But I would say L-O-V-E is power. And with that power you must know how to use that power to your advantage. I will now list the steps on how to use LOVE to your advantage.

1. The number one rule to my LOVE Advantage black book would be, and I mean listen to what I tell you. First! You never love someone who doesnt love you. Never tell the person you love them if you have a feeling they dont love you back the same way. It is important to protect your emotions and your heart. Never give more than the other.

2. Now that you have control over your LOVE and emotions, your ahead of this lust your having with someone. Lets just say this person really likes you. You tell them all the negative things you get annoyed by what they say and do. They now realize that you have reasons to not really talk to them but yet your still dating. This makes the person feel like okay, maybe they need to just do alittle more to impress you, so now you kinda have them in the palm of your hand.

3. Let this person believe that you love them, but yet not risking your life. You would only do this if you truely feel that the relationship is going to blossom. This puts you at the top of their list, here they are thinking they really have your full attention. Tell them what they want to hear and do your own thing.

4. Love could also bring you gifts. Its nice to feel like a Queen or King in the relationship, when someone is showering your with extraordinary gifts. If someone really love you, are "like" you, they will try to impress you to their fullest, either taking you out but paying for it to be exact. Buying you gifts, but this is how they buy you gifts that you want. People now days dont want fucking flowers. Like OMG... flowers are good with the actual gift, but just flowers, I mean yes its romantic and sweet, but do you seriously want something that is going to die? That just shows that the relationship is dying. Get somthing that would last forever, but yet has memories. Nice jewelry would be great, I love fashion, so clothes is a plus! Just nice things that would really put a smile on your face. Now just because you like gifts doesnt mean your a gold-digger, it just means you have high standards and if a guy/girl would go beyond to et the things you want, then this person must be your dream guy/girl/

5. Final step. Now that this person is getting to know the things you like and what you dont like aabout them, show them your inner beauty. Let them into your world. I mean a sleep over would be cool. Let him/her hang out with your friends, to get to know the kind of crowd you hang around and things you really like to do when he/she is not around. Now that he/she has got to know more about you, they are for sure so in love with you its crazy! This is why my little love black book is called "Crazy In Love" because its crazy what love can do for you, and get for you to .

I hope this has help you learn alittle more about how love can change your life and others. But why do people want to be loved so much. Im single and not in love. And I love that. When the time comes, it will come. So I'll enjoy my single non-loving life while I have it, because when I do Love, I wont be able to love again or the same I hope.

Forever and a day,

TPH